Join Isabel Romero as she shares her journey in health, fitness and mental wellness. Her goal is to serve as an inspiration to others by helping all her readers achieve their personal best.
I decided to write my first blog today… and of all days, I woke up sick. Not necessarily a bad thing because sometimes when you feel your worst physically, you feel your truest mentally.
Most of my life has felt like a sham. Not because I have lied to the people I care about, but rather, because I have lived it trying to be someone that everyone wants me to be. Maybe it’s just my perception of who they want me to be, but sometimes it’s hard to differentiate perception from reality. If I had a dollar for every time someone has said “what I wouldn’t do to have your life!” or “I would trade places with you in a heartbeat!”, I would be a billionaire. From the outside, what people see is someone who is very well-educated, has the perfect career, the perfect family, the perfect… the perfect… you get the picture. One of my friends even jokes around and says “I have rats in my backyard. You have cute little bunnies. Wanna switch?” But what I have come to realize is that with the exception of my children, I would give it all up in a heartbeat.
At the age of 39, I have finally taken a step back to discover who I really am. And what I have discovered so far is that the person I really am does not really exist on the outside. Yes, my “true self” is the same, meaning, I am still filled with abundant love, generosity and compassion. The people in my life who know me well know this to be true—I love with my whole heart (one of my old hygienists used to say “Dr V is just a big ‘ol bundle of LOVE!”). What is not the same is the “stuff” on the surface.
I will tell you a little story that shows but one example of what I am talking about. A few years ago, when I became a dentist, my ex-husband and I looked at each other and laughed because we talked about how both of us are such “bums”, choosing to always be in casual clothes (to the extreme) when we could really afford to be in clothes a hundred times better. After all, we are both “Doctors”. This became an actual regular topic of conversation between us—about how our look does not match our perceived status. I remember the week we moved into our very upper-class neighborhood. My ex-husband looked at me and said “You realize we can’t dress this way anymore. We’ve gotten away with it for the past few years because we were in a college town and nobody cares, but the people here care.” And I knew he was right. The problem was that all I had were “bummy clothes” and scrubs since I so deeply dislike malls and shopping. Most of the clothes I was wearing at age 30 were actually from when I was 18 and in college, but I honestly didn’t care. He insisted I get a personal shopper to pick out nice things for me, and over $10,000 later (in one week), there I was, the “perfect” Parkland Dentist and Mom….on the outside. On the inside, on many days I was still just a magical unicorn with pink, purple and blue streaks in my hair, wearing a glittery tutu and playing leap-frog with my friends.
I’m done with doing things for the sake of what people may think of me. I could go on for days with examples of how other people’s opinions have really molded me into who I am today…or rather, who I seem to be. But the bottom line is that I can’t do it anymore. Nobody should. Even though I seemingly “have it all” in this consumer-driven world, I have a lingering discontent with my life. And now is my time to be me. That is why I decided to start this blog. Living my entire life doing everything for the sake of everyone else has left me exhausted. This is my time… to enjoy myself, to motivate myself, to grow myself, to allow others into my life…to make every moment count. What is genuinely most important to me besides my children is having a healthy body and a healthy soul, to love and be loved, and of course, to help others. Having a fit mind is the best way to find the strength to really be your true self. There is no other way. I welcome you to start your journey with me.
Peace, love, health and happiness,