Join Isabel Romero as she shares her journey in health, fitness and mental wellness. Her goal is to serve as an inspiration to others by helping all her readers achieve their personal best.
As an Endodontist, the patients in my chair are there for a purpose – to have a Root Canal performed. Knowing this, without fail, many will attempt to barter their way out of the procedure due to this unpleasant emotion caused by their own belief that pain will be inflicted upon them; this sensation has a name – FEAR.
Fear is a very real, at times, uncontrollable reaction to any given circumstance.
If we look at fear from a scientific/psychological perspective, it is an adaptive behavior that has assisted humans in identifying threats to allow us to protect ourselves. There are 2 types of fear: Innate and Adaptive – ones we are born with and ones we develop as we experience the world around us. I could argue, that fear is, perhaps, the biggest roadblock we have in our lives, preventing us from achieving our goals and desires. I often hear “I have not been to the dentist in years because I am scared” or “I can’t go to the gym because people will judge me”; imagine if this feeling of apprehension was non-existent…how much more would you accomplish?
There comes a point in life when you have to outline your goals and desires, numerically rank them in order of importance and make a conscious decision to take action. You must ask yourself:
If we take the fear of failure, for example, this is a critically common rationale for not pursuing goals. Certainly a validated hesitation, we have to recognize that we have failed many many times more than we have succeeded – for every 1 large success, how many times did things not go our way? After all, when we learned to walk, we fell plenty of times and yet, now, walking is an unconscious event.
While fear is a very real experience and emotion, you cannot let it hold you back from obtaining what you want; this is, if you TRULY want it. When you start to experience the sensations associated with fear, cluster them and place them into clear box – a place where you can see and acknowledge them, but they can’t touch you.
“The fears we don’t face become our limits”!