Join Isabel Romero as she shares her journey in health, fitness and mental wellness. Her goal is to serve as an inspiration to others by helping all her readers achieve their personal best.
We have all experienced struggles within ourselves; we argue with our heart and try to rationalize with our brain. These selfish discussions happen often and we usually can rationalize a solution to conjure up the courage needed to solve the equation. It is one thing to have a duel between emotion and rationale but it’s a whole other ball game when an outside force is allowed to act on us.
Doubt can be created by our own fears, and it can much more easily be fashioned when another individual rattles our confidence – this, in essence, is bullying. Bullying is best known to occur as a sort-of, child’s play, when a bigger, faster, stronger kid pulls the pigtails of a girl or shoves a small boy down the slide; all while laughing at the demise of the bullied. There has been a multitude of media attention regarding awareness of bullying in schools, but when was the last time you heard of verbal/emotional bullying in an adult workplace?
Somewhat of a conundrum, I suppose, because being an adult means you have developed skills to act like one, right? One should be able to stand up for themselves and should comprehend that picking on people is immature – so why then, does Adult Bullying happen and why is it masked? With the increasing presence of social media in our lives, we post pictures, we write blogs and we essentially let the world see our stripped down selves, daily. We post our successes and our failures, our proudest moments and the ones we write, asking for help – what, these days, is hidden? Fear, perhaps?
I have seen and heard dozens of stories of online entrepreneurs that, for example, market products for weight loss or nutrition, only to be bullied about their own physique by people they do not even know. I am a dental specialist – a profession that requires a referral base, just like most sale-based jobs, and when I first began my career, I was bullied to a point that I began to second-guess myself; I barely even know the perpetrators. I began to lose confidence in myself due to someone else’s sheer lack of confidence in THEMSELVES…this is a hard act to swallow…bullying is a direct reflection of the bully themselves.
No matter the situation, no matter the circumstances, no matter the parties involved, being tormented by another individual(s) is never acceptable. If you find yourself in a corner where you feel weakened or subpar, look at your own reflection and TELL yourself: “I am better than this”, “I am better than my situation”, “I will rise”. The moment you begin to BELIEVE these words is the moment you will have a fresh start. I left my very first job out of school feeling like I wasted so many years becoming an elite professional because I could not do it…today, nearly 1 year later, every single patient I see is a reward for the education I value so dearly; every day I walk into the office, I am confident and know that I am in the right profession and I am in the right place.
You deserve to feel strong…you…are…powerful!
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